Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Go-To Person

Perhaps I was the go-to person today. I hope so. 

I spent an hour this morning helping my friend prepare her application for an internship in Singapore. I like to think it turned out rather nicely.

At work, I was given three completely unexpected tasks, which I accepted without flinching internally. I tried to do them in stride, hopefully seamlessly.

The future is always uncertain, but this makes me happy. 

Monday, April 28, 2014

No Worries

The curb in front of the international terminal is divided into sections, and there are spots reserved for buses that are going to adjacent cities. When I came out of the terminal doors, happily, the bus for my city was right there, and people were boarding it. The bus driver was loading a family's luggage into the storage compartment underneath the bus and then taking their payment and giving them change. He was very flustered and unnerved about something. He kept moving his head about, making exasperated noises, and seemed caught between doing two different things at the same time. The family seemed to have some initial difficulty getting their correct change. When all was finished, I asked him if it would be all right if I boarded the bus. The bus was half empty and my suitcase was small enough to carry on (I had brought a backpack as well). I began to retrieve my money to pay him. He never looked at me--while I waited for him to help the family and when I asked him the question. So, I asked him again, politely. He waved me off and climbed into the driver's seat, still never looking at me. Then he closed the door and drove off.

No worries. People get flustered sometimes at work. Me, too! I decided to enjoy the extra time while I waited for the next bus. I got a vitamin drink and strolled around the terminal. Then I got on the next bus and rode home, late but not stressed. I said a prayer to Mercury before leaving on Saturday morning. Maybe I'll say a bedtime prayer for that bus driver tonight, as well!

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Great News!

I went to Japan. My friend had fantastic news. The treatment was successful. Her cancer seems to be gone. There's no guarantee it hasn't spread, but if it has, the doctor told her, it won't be known for several years. For the moment, she's not on the brink of death. She was fully mobile and to a limited extent, energetic. 

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Things to Do Before Traveling

I should leave tonight for the airport and spend the night in a nearby hotel, instead of tomorrow morning, because I live so far away. That means I've got so many things to do before I go. I think it's simply impossible that I could do all of them. I also have to go to work and make a serious, nontrivial contribution.

I did clean the bathroom and the kitchen. I also swept the floor, but I haven't mopped it. I washed all my clothes (those I'm bringing and those I'm not bringing). I have to clean out the refrigerator, too, and organize my books.

If I can't do these things, I'll just try to winnow it down to essential tasks. The rest, I'll just have to try to let them go.

Update

I updated my post below to qualify the final sentence.

Korea is Not a Place of Blind Obedience

There is a meme (by that I mean a unit of information, a unit of thought) that pops up regularly when the English-language media (i.e., more specifically, the American media) discusses any tragedy involving Korea. It popped up during the Asiana Airlines crash. It has popped up again concerning the Sewol disaster. It's this: That there exists in Korea a culture of blind obedience derived from Confucianism, and it was this blind obedience that played a role in the incident being discussed.

I strongly disagree. My objection isn't contrarianism--opposite views for the sheer sake of opposite views. That simply isn't how things work in Korea, in my experience. In particular, with regard to the Sewol, students simply aren't taught blindly to follow the orders of adults. Above all else, students are taught to think for themselves, to have their own point of view, and to come to their own evidence-based conclusion about how to react to any given situation. Where adult authority conflicts with the students' opinions, the culture considers it bad form to force rather than demonstrate where the student or child is incorrect. Adults and teachers show and explain far more often than they pull rank as authority figures. Children are free to talk back, as it were, where talking back is a legitimate argument, or where there is confusion as to the necessity of having to do X or Y; where it's not just emotion-based attitude. In fact, many Westerners in schools observed all of this, misunderstood it, and complained about the "lack of authority".

I don't know what happened on the Sewol, but the children must have been convinced by the adults in charge--against the children's better judgment--that it was safe--until it wasn't. 

Best Wishes & Lots of Love

Best wishes and much love to you, this Friday, April 25th of 2014--one day in this very short life.

"Love the people with whom fate binds you, but do so with all your heart."

Broken Fingers

The news--I think it was CNN--reported that many of the bodies of students recovered from the Sewol had broken fingers, meaning, that their attempts to escape were so desperate they broke their bones.

There is a Facebook and Twitter hashtag #prayforsouthkorea.

I most certainly will. 

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Break

I'm getting ready to go to Japan to see my friend who was diagnosed as terminally ill, so I won't be guarding the flame until next Monday.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

I want..

I want to be nonreactive. I don't mean burying stuff inside, to be nonreactive now but reactive later. I mean, nonreactive, now and later. And I want to be more compassionate, but not in an oppressive or burdensome way. And I want to be fluent in French. And I want to study Korean literature. And I want to do Toastmasters again. And I want to be the go-to person for reliability at work. And I want to pray to Vesta more.

Aww life. Stop being so short.